From an article the famous Christian pacifist John Howard Yoder wrote back in 1974 and it was helpful for me in my own prayer today:
The real temptation of good people like us is not the crude and the crass and the carnal, as those traits were defined in popular puritanism. The really refined temptation with which Jesus himself was tried was not crude sensuality but that of egocentric altruism; of being oneself the incarnation of a good and righteous cause for which others may rightly be made to suffer; of starting in the form of a duty to others one’s self-justification.
Religion starts to stink when it causes you to suspect your motives are perfect.
Your Correspondent, If indeed he is God’s gift to women, then surely God made a mistake